Lately, as new people enter the arena of spirit and entity keeping and companionship, it seems to be a common concern among them that they aren't sure what is appropriate when addressing a spellcaster, healing practitioner, or conjurer. Of course, this is to be expected- it's not as though most people have interacted with someone in one of those professions before, and many of them have a very casual air about them- so, what exactly is appropriate?
In this article I will attempt to give a brief overview of some do's and don't's when communicating with a practitioner you intend to work with.
Firstly, I would like to note that as with everyone else who exists in the world, metaphysical workers are people too and they have feelings that can be hurt, they may have off days or need to take a day off due to obligations in their physical life.
Please be conscious of the fact that we are human when you talk to us, question us, or offer us feedback! A little consideration for others is free and it helps keeps things cordial.
Second, please be considerate of the fact that for most of us, we take this seriously as a profession. Now obviously there might be someone who defies this generalization, so that is why I specify 'most' instead of 'all'. What this means is that you should treat us like anyone else you interact with while they were working- be conscious of the fact that you are not the sole customer, and be okay with waiting for 'your turn' or waiting for your questions to be answered. Just because websites do not close at 10 or 11pm does not mean it is okay to expect instant replies from your practitioner at that hour, and most practitioners take weekends off and may not answer work emails or DMs until they get back into their 'office hours'.
Third, while most conjurers and practitioner welcome questions and love to help teach others, it is important to recognize that nobody is obligated to spoon feed you information. If someone recommends reading certain materials, looking something up, or engaging in practice, no amount of questions you ask is going to get you the knowledge you would gain from simply doing as they recommended. For example there are many people who when you suggest they look up a technique like shielding, they will simply ask how to do it- the thing is, it's not a simple explanation, and to summarize it in a single post or reply would be a disservice to you, the inquirer. It is much better for you to, as recommended, seek out material that goes into detail on those topics and really explores them, and also to seek out multiple sources so you can have a well rounded knowledge-base to work from on the topic. Every practitioner does things a little differently, and one method might work better for you than another, but you will never know if you only learn about and try one method to begin with.
Lastly, although this does tie in to the previous point as well, please recognize that there is a limit to how many questions are deemed acceptable in a single session. This is our job, after all, and even though you may think your questions do not take up much time, they can quickly grow to take up a lot of time if every time we answer you hit us with another query, When we are spending time explaining things, even though we enjoy teaching and sharing very much, that is time we can not spend doing custom, prebound, and service writeups. At some point, even the nicest practitioner will have to 'ignore' your questions for a bit to get work done. I have seen some prior customers get very angry at being 'ignored' in direct messages when the truth is that the practitioner they are messaging had been working the whole day, marked as busy on all chat platforms. Sometimes we may actually be busy, we do have orders to work on and we need to focus on that primarily, rather than simply chatting with people all the time.
I'd like to round out this list with a few special mentions of things that are not against any 'rules' but are looked upon as inconsiderate to do: Please do not ask for an order status in a public place. It really puts the person on the spot, and it inspires everyone else to do it too, which just creates a chain of progress requests.
Please do not boast about how one seller is better than another, or constantly promote other sellers in someone's personal chat. Most places have rules against this, but whether it is against the rules or not it is rude- along the lines of going into a restaurant only to loudly complain about how much better the competitor down the street is.
Please do not repeatedly ask or beg for free things. You may think you are being cute and showing that you really like what we have to offer, but it really hurts to hear someone assert that your work and time is worth so little that they would like it for free. Stick around and you may win a contest for something for free, though! Most practitioners offer contests and drawings for free services.
Please do not ask overly personal questions of practitioners in spaces meant for questions related to their work.
In summation, please just be considerate of those that work with you and keep in mind that conjurers and practitioners are people too. At the end of the day, if someone is being repeatedly problematic, they may end up getting blocked from working with certain shops. Adhering to this basic guide and keeping things professional will make sure that you don't accidentally impose upon someone or cause them to think you are rude.
Thank you,
Aurora Magick
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